I know you may have had millions of motivational people and psycho healers telling you why and how to jettison the weight of your past that you might be carrying about. How very right they are in their own ways! Now, get my idea and add it to your weaponry in your war against regrets.
Before I proceed, it might interest you to know how much your regrets over your past mistakes affect your job and life negatively and generally. Let me tell you this with my own personal experience.
Like anyone else struggling with human frailty, I have had my victories and failures in life. Looking back now, I realize none of these actually deserved an absolute tag of either 'failure' or 'victory' since certain victories led to failures and certain failures led to victories. My aim here is not to go to any details on these cases but to tell you the negative effects I permitted the 'failures' to produce in me and how I eventually upturned those effects.
First off, my life was just stagnant for years until I somehow thought it had to be that way since there was nothing I could lay hands on as being responsible for my plight. Incidentally, I had to read up stuffs and reflect over them, not really knowing what was going on until much later, years later.
Eventually, the jigsaw began to piece together. "Oh yes" I seemed to realize. "Yes, yes, yes, I'm stuck in my past". I realized that, even in the dreamland, I would often be found in my elementary school and other past scenarios. Then, I also came to be conscious of my fixation on my past. I realized that I was in the mental habit of thinking "how could I have goofed?" in this or that instant. I would remember where and when I had said or did things I shouldn't have, and how it was now too late to not have had it that way.
There was even a time protracted joblessness made me regret ever going to high school and college since younger people I knew, who went into entrepreneurship after elementary school, were far more to be reckoned with than I was. And, there were even times I regretted ever being born and thought of ending my life to correct the mistake I was sure my life was. I realized I might be doing something and, all of a sudden, I would begin to beat myself, letting my mind trail off from the present concern. And, yes, it was a terrible life to have.
How did I finally come out of my past to my present to enable me get to my future?
1. I had to accept I am human and that I am therefore not alone in the forest of past mistakes. Every human being dead or living, have their own share of past mistakes. And, in fact, mistakes are so much a part of humanity that anyone who does not seem to have them, need not be proud of it. If you don't ever realize your own mistakes, it is likely that either you are so mentally poor you can't realize simple truth or you are so immature you are arrogantly denying obvious facts. Is it not then foolish of me to be so much fixated on the fact that I made mistakes, that I have been human?
2. I make a redress where I needed to and where possible. Toxic people find it extremely difficult to say sorry when they should. But I tell you that one of the sweetest experiences I have ever had is that of saying sorry genuinely from my heart. I don't need anyone one to say they have forgiven. Rather, once I know I was able to rise above self to admit my wrongs as mine and to express genuine remorse for them, I feel such an elation that must be how Paradise will feel. And some people think that saying sorry reduces their worth. But, my experience says the direct opposite: Some of the greatest respect I enjoy today, comes from where I most humbly and genuinely said sorry. Try it and see.
3. I completely resolve never to repeat any mistake I have made before. Well, I don't know how to tell you this but this resolve in question is more about being prayerful than being careful. A prayerful vigilance for the moment makes regrets over the past and anxiety towards the future, impossible. For me, praying is no other than living at the moment in the consciousness of Divinity. This consciousness alone connects you to the Divine Presence that's always right there with you. And when the Divine takes charge of your affairs, everything tends to work out on their own and for the best.
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